5 Ways to Use Mindfulness to Make Changes in your Life
The other day I learned workaholism is a sign of codependency, which makes sense because I’ve struggled with manifestations of both most of my life. I mention this to you because recently I have been noticing over and over again how I shy away from pleasure, play and nourishment for the sake of work. I will skip meals because I need to finish a project and work long after my body and mind need a break for no other reason than I think “I have to get this done…”.
By mindfully tuning in to what is going on in my body and mind, I have begun the process of accepting that this hyper focus on work is harming me. Through mindfulness practices — mainly meditation and journaling, I have come to understand that the why behind this maladaptive habit is the need for control. If I just work harder and longer and give more of myself, then I will be more in control of the outcome (false). Just like a codependent relationship where I give my all to someone for very little in return, I can only control what I can control which is not outward success or external validation, but the way I relate to myself.
I mention this vignette to you, because as much as I love mindfulness and feel it is the catalyst for deeper self understanding, connection and love, no amount of mindful observation can take the place of action.
