Stop Trying to be a “Better” Version of Yourself

Kim Buchwald
4 min readJul 13, 2022
Photo by Bruna Vidal: https://www.pexels.com/photo/woman-on-floor-2785329/

If you are here reading what I am writing then I am going to assume you are not a stranger to the wellness space. You’ve probably felt the urge to “work” on yourself to be that “better” version of yourself, “healthier”, more “sustainable”, more “spiritual”, more “self aware” ect.

If this version of wellness works for you, great keep doing it.

But if something feels off about the incessant need to “work” on yourself in order to live a life that feels alive and connected to you, then please keep reading.

I ask you this: Is the point of wellness to actually be a “better” version of yourself? When did wellBEing become a passion project with a deadline? What are we all doing here?

When you see someone taking a yoga class on social media, or hiking a mountain or lifting weights in the gym, what are you actually comparing yourself to? You are comparing yourself to that “better” version of you. The you that is supposedly a more calm and centered person, the you that is more outdoorsy and adventurous, or the you that has more mental fortitude and discipline.

In my experience, what I want out of these wellness practices, especially those I see others…

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Kim Buchwald

Writing about the relationship we hold with ourselves. Founder of @theartofgoodenough a platform dedicated to wellness rooted in love and presence.