Using mindfulness to help you feel good enough? This is what you are missing

Kim Buchwald
6 min readMay 21, 2022

As someone who got started on her mindfulness journey out of a desperate attempt to fix the feelings of not good enough I carried with me into my life and relationships, the idea of mindfulness, that I was simply supposed to accept negative thoughts and feelings, didn’t make sense.

I wanted to change those feelings and thoughts, not offer them a place in my head and my heart.

I wanted to be different and do differently not accept where I was.

Mindfulness was supposed to make my life better, not keep it at a stand still.

All of these barriers to BEing in the moment with myself as is, good enough, stemmed from a misunderstanding of how a mindfulness practice could create change in my life and help me feel better about myself.

This is what I was missing:

Mindfulness + Action = Intentional Change

In other words, my mindfulness practice was the start of making change in my life, NOT the end of it. It was through the subsequent actions I took, grounded in love and acceptance that actually gave me the power and space I needed to make changes in my life.

To that end, if you want to make changes in your life rooted in self love whether those changes are feeling better about yourself or something totally different, mindfulness AND action need to work together for you to grow.

Author’s model of mindfulness + action = intentional change

Mindfulness is the Soil of Good Enough

Mindfulness practice is the beginning of taking action to build a more loving relationship with yourself. It is the soil of mindfulness into which you planted new, concrete habits of how you choose to show up in the world. It is the soil of mindfulness that allows what you planted to grow roots and become a new sustainable, thriving way of relating to yourself and your life.

In other words, your mindfulness practice creates the conditions of love, compassion and acceptance. These concepts are inherent to any mindfulness practice as they are the outcome…

Kim Buchwald

Writing about the relationship we hold with ourselves. Founder of @theartofgoodenough a platform dedicated to wellness rooted in love and presence.